Quest for social interaction

We all need social interaction. It's a basic human need. Unfortunately many older people can outlive their friends and family. Opportunities for making new friends and going to social events can be limited, especially for people who live alone or are limited by chronic disease.

Recently I was very touched by a friend's need for companionship. He's 92 years old, lonely and feeling depressed. He's keen on meeting someone special just to share a few laughs and enjoy the simple pleasures of the day (He's not sure how many he has left).

Feeling optimistic I took him to the local seniors group. I had met them a week earlier and thought they were a vibrant happy bunch. He was hesitant at first and made a few excuses "I can't play bowls I'm legally blind" I insisted he just turn up for a cup of tea and a chat (It's free). Reluctant to go on his own but not wanting me to come I arranged for one of the members to meet and greet him.

Later that day I got an enthusiastic call telling me he enjoyed the morning. He met some lovely ladies and went for lunch with the boys at the local club and although he isn't interested in playing indoor bowls he's going to try to go every now and again.

Whilst there are many social groups in the community for older people problems arise when seniors have to attend those initial meetings on their own. Teaming up with a "buddy" or another member of a group for social support often helps new members feel at ease in new surroundings.

If you are organising for a loved one to attend a social group ask the group if they have a "buddy" that can pick up or accompany your relative. Meeting a group of strangers can be daunting at any age. Sometimes we just need a little support to encourage new frienships.