Will a move to a new home make my dad's dementia worse?

How well your dad copes with the move (and the plane trip) will depend on how progressive his dementia is. Any change in environment will probably make your dad feel anxious and disorientated but there are many things you can do to help him cope with the transition to a new home and make the plane trip more pleasant.

In my opinion I think it's important to continue to explain to him what's happening, why he is moving and where you are going but keep in mind that some people living with the early stages of dementia can get overly anxious about a future event. You may like to explain the situation to him a few days before (or on the day) rather than a few weeks before.

How well he handles the plane trip will also depend on the progression of his dementia. Always seek advice from a doctor before the flight especially if he has problems with wandering, aggressive behavior, agitation and anxiety. If he is taking medications you will need to take these with you. You will also need to know how to cope with any change in behaviour (ask the nursing care staff for assistance).

The key to travelling is allow yourself plenty of time! Don't rush him to get dressed and out the door. It's a good idea to ring the aged care home on the day early to ensure they have him ready.

If you can pack his clothes, furniture and any familiar objects early on. Have your sister arrange his room in advance to ease the transition.

Always inform the airline before hand. Ask for a seat near the toilets with lots of leg room. If he wanders request the middle seat for your dad and take the aisle seat. In terms of what to do on the plane think about what your dad enjoys, what holds his attention and what activities does he find relaxing? Looking at magazines or photos, watching a movie or playing with dementia specific toys will make the time go by quickly.

By the time you get on the plane he may actually want some rest so encourage him to take a nap. Also keep him well hydrated by encouraging him to drink throughout the day. If he is incontinent bring extra clothes, pads and wipes.

Remember to look after yourself too, make sure your sister is at the other end to meet you and take over. Instead of taking a taxi you may like to ask a friend to take you to the airport to give you a little support and an extra hand before take off.

Your dad will also pick up on what you are feeling. If you become overly anxious, angry or upset you may not be the best travel companion for your dad and you may be better off organising someone else to go with him.
One more bit of advice, have a back up plan! Don't be stumped if on the day he falls sick, is too agitated to travel or you don't feel up to it. Keep this in mind when booking your ticket.